Have you ever heard the expression, “I’m just wired that way?” In my experience, some people use that phrase as an excuse for poor behavior. Human behavior is shaped by both our experiences and our genetics. When we are born, we have no experience of trauma, heartache, or betrayal. Yet at some point in life, most of us encounter something that changes our wiring—how we think, how we feel, how we love, and how we trust (or don't). During a recent time of self-reflection, I rea